Thriving Solo
Tired of putting your life on hold?
Learn how to thrive while single, stop waiting for a relationship, and build a life so good anyone joining has to earn it.
ELEVATE THE WAY YOU LIVE
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ELEVATE THE WAY YOU LIVE •
Single and Solo isn't a waiting room —it's your training ground.
You're waiting.
Waiting to buy the house until you have someone to share it with. Waiting to take the trip until you have a travel partner. Waiting to start your life until you meet "the one."
Meanwhile, your actual life is passing you by.
Here's what nobody tells you about being single: The problem isn't that you're alone. The problem is you're treating "single" like a temporary emergency instead of an actual phase of your life worth living.
What if you built a life so full that anyone joining it has to clear a high bar?
Not because you're picky. Because you've created something worth protecting.
Stop waiting for your life to start. Start building a life worth protecting.
Core ValueThe relationship you have with yourself is the only constant in life - it directly shapes the depth of connection you’ll have with anyone else.
How This Works
Self-paced online digital intensive
Short, focused video lessons
Practical reflection prompts
Designed to be completed in a few sittings—or revisited over time
Immediate access after purchase
You can take this while actively dating—or before you jump back in.
Thriving solo doesn’t mean closing yourself off to connection. If and when you choose to date, Date With Discernment helps you do so without losing yourself.
Practical Details
90-minute online course you can complete on your own schedule
Premium workbook included to help you apple the UnPattern framework to your actual real-life experiences
Pricing
$149 (Introductory Offer)
Who This Is For
This program is for you if:
You’re choosing singlehood intentionally (not avoidantly)
Life looks good on paper—but feels under-anchored internally. This is focused on building a solid sense of self as a foundation for everything else you do in your life.
You’re done organizing your future around “someday”
You want depth, autonomy, and emotional clarity and emotional self-leadership without self-abandonment
Dr. Lindsay is here to help!
I’m Dr. Lindsay O’Shea (PhD), a California-based Clinical Psychologist who helps people understand and break repeating relationship patterns.
My work focuses on the space between insight and action—the moment when emotions activate, old strategies take over, and choice narrows. Rather than offering advice or labels, I help people recognize patterns earlier and respond with more clarity and self-trust.
My work bridges attachment science, nervous system awareness, and real-world relationships—without oversimplified advice or blame.
UnPattern was created for people who are insightful, self-aware, and still finding themselves stuck in the same cycles. Because knowing better doesn’t always mean choosing differently—until you understand why.
Want Personalized Support While Thriving Solo?
If you find yourself saying:
“I understand this—but I still freeze or spiral in real situations.”
“I want feedback on what I’m actually experiencing while doing this work.”
You may benefit from Solo and Self-Actualized Coaching.
This program builds on the digital intensive and offers:
Individualized support
Real-time pattern tracking
Application to your specific dating experiences
Accountability and clarity
👉 Complete the digital intensive first.
Then apply for coaching if you want deeper, personalized guidance.
Frequently Asked Questions
Below are the most common questions I hear:
Is it healthy to choose being single on purpose?
Yes. Intentional singlehood can be a powerful period of growth, clarity, and self-trust. This program supports people who want to build a fulfilling life without dating from pressure or fear.
What if I’m doing ‘fine’ already?
This program isn’t for people in crisis. It’s for people who are functional but not fully aligned—and ready to live with more internal coherence and authorship.
Is this for people who never want a relationship? What if I want one later?
Not necessarily. This program is for people who want to feel grounded and whole whether they’re single, dating later, or partnered in the future.
Will this help me stop settling or rushing into relationships?
Not necessarily. This program is for people who want to feel grounded and whole whether they’re single, dating later, or partnered in the future.
Yes. Thriving solo helps you build self-trust and emotional stability so you’re not dating to escape discomfort or fill a void.
Will this help me stop settling or rushing into relationships?
Yes. Thriving solo helps you build self-trust and emotional stability so you’re not dating to escape discomfort or fill a void.
How is being alone different from being lonely?
Being alone is a circumstance; loneliness is a relationship to yourself. This program helps you cultivate connection, meaning, and emotional steadiness while single.
Is this for people who never want a relationship? What if I want one later?
Not necessarily. This program is for people who want to feel grounded and whole whether they’re single, dating later, or partnered in the future.
What if I’m doing ‘fine’ already?
This program isn’t for people in crisis. It’s for people who are functional but not fully aligned—and ready to live with more internal coherence and authorship.
Will this help me stop settling or rushing into relationships?
Yes. Thriving solo helps you build self-trust and emotional stability so you’re not dating to escape discomfort or fill a void.
Who is this program best suited for?
This program is ideal for people who are:
Intentionally single or decentering romantic partnership
Emotionally aware but craving deeper internal alignment
High-functioning and reflective, yet feeling subtly unanchored
Ready to stop organizing their life around “someday”
If you’re looking for dating advice, matchmaking, or relationship repair, this is not the right fit.
More FAQs
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No. This is a psychology-informed educational and coaching-based program focused on intentional living, self-leadership, and emotional clarity while single.
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Solo & Self-Actualized is not about optimization, performance, or “fixing” yourself.
It’s about consolidating identity, strengthening internal authority, and building a life that feels coherent and self-led—without bypassing emotional depth. -
First off, congrats on the self-awareness! Feel free to reach out to me and we can discuss therapy options - Psychology Today is another great resource for finding a therapist in your area.
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Breakup Reset is not appropriate if you:
Are in acute emotional crisis
Are experiencing active suicidality or severe depression
Need trauma processing or clinical mental health treatment
Are seeking couples therapy or reconciliation work
If any of these apply, therapy or specialized support is recommended instead. Schedule a clarity call and I am happy to help find you the best support in your healing!
UnPattern is a psychology-informed, educational program.
It is not psychotherapy and does not provide diagnosis, treatment, or mental health care.
Participation does not create a psychologist-patient relationship.
If you are experiencing significant emotional distress or require clinical support, please seek care from a licensed mental health professional.
If you are in crisis or need immediate support:
Call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room
Call or text 988 — Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Text HOME to 741741 — Crisis Text Line
