How to Break the Cycle After a Breakup (Not Just Move On)
Most breakup advice focuses on getting over this person.
But the real work is understanding why you chose this dynamic.
Insight helps—but it doesn’t rewire attraction. Attachment patterns aren’t cognitive. They’re somatic. They live in the body, not the thought process.
That’s why you can know better and still feel pulled back.
Breaking the cycle means:
noticing familiar attraction in real time
tolerating discomfort without immediately soothing it
learning what safety feels like instead of chasing intensity
This isn’t about never getting hurt again.
It’s about not choosing the same hurt on repeat.
The next relationship will be different only if you do something different with this breakup.
That’s the work.
And it starts here.
If you’re ready to stop repeating the same emotional patterns, UNPATTERN is designed to help you retrain what your nervous system recognizes as love—so your next relationship changes because you did.
