Why You Can’t Let Go (And Why It’s Not About Them)

You think you can’t let go because they were special.

Because the connection was rare. Because if you’d just tried harder or waited longer, it might’ve worked.

But what’s actually happening is quieter—and older.

Your nervous system is trying to resolve something that didn’t get resolved long before this relationship existed.

If love once meant earning approval, you’ll stay attached to people who withhold it.
If love once meant losing yourself, you’ll be drawn to people you can’t fully trust.
If love was unpredictable, chaos will feel like passion.

The person you can’t let go of isn’t special.
They’re familiar.

And the brain keeps looping because it believes this time might heal the original wound.

It won’t.
That’s not how healing works.