The Three Breakup Patterns That Keep You Stuck

The way we handle breakups is actually low-key pretty predictable and related to our attachment patterns.

Different people. Same emotional choreography.

The Anxious Loop

You can’t stop checking their social media. You analyze every breadcrumb like it’s a coded message. Letting go feels impossible—not because you’re irrational, but because your nervous system protests disconnection loudly.

Your system learned early: closeness must be fought for.

The Avoidant Escape

At first, there’s relief. Space. Freedom. Then—months later—the grief arrives out of nowhere. You may jump into something new or convince yourself it didn’t matter that much.

Your system traded intimacy for safety.
Now it’s wondering if that cost was too high.

The Fearful Spiral

You want closeness until you have it—then it feels like too much. You initiate the breakup and want them back. Or they leave and you feel both relieved and destroyed.

Your system learned that love is dangerous whether you have it or lose it.

If one of these patterns feels uncomfortably familiar, you’re not broken—you’re patterned. That’s exactly what The Breakup Reset Program is designed to help you see clearly.

Patterns don’t dissolve through willpower.
They dissolve through recognition.