Dating With Discernment
Stop Dating on Autopilot. Start Choosing With Clarity.
Dating With Discernment
You don’t need more dating tips.
You need clarity, self-trust, and a way to stop repeating the same dynamics with different people.
Date With Discernment is a self-paced online intensive designed for people who are dating—but tired of confusion, mixed signals, emotional whiplash, and second-guessing themselves after every interaction.
This intensive is a psychology-informed digital dating course that helps people stop repeating unhealthy dating patterns, recognize red flags early, and date with clarity instead of anxiety. Designed for emotionally aware daters who want connection without self-abandonment.
This is not a “how to text,” “how to attract,” or “how to get someone to choose you” course.
It’s a psychology-informed reset that helps you date from clarity instead of chemistry chaos—so you can build connection without self-abandonment.
Date With Discernment gives you a clear internal framework so you can:
✔ Recognize your dating patterns early before you’re emotionally attached
✔Stop confusing anxiety, chemistry, and intuition
✔ Recognize emotional availability without overanalyzing or self-gaslighting
✔ Stop overfunctioning, overexplaining, and overinvesting
✔ Stay connected to yourself while dating, even when you really like someone
✔ Choose partners from clarity instead of hope, fear, or potential
This is about learning how to relate responsibly while dating—to yourself and to others.
The UnPattern Process for Dating:
Recognize what’s actually happening beneath attraction
Interrupt old dynamics before they pull you off-center
Choose from alignment instead of autopilot
If Dating Feels Like This…
You meet someone promising… then slowly feel anxious, overinvested, or off-balance
You keep giving the benefit of the doubt—until you realize you’re doing all the emotional labor
You’re confused about whether something is “normal early dating stuff” or a real red flag
You know your attachment patterns in theory—but they still hijack you in real time
You’re tired of dating people who feel familiar… and end the same way
You’re not broken.
You’re dating without a system. And chemistry alone is not a system… UnPattern Digital Intensive gives you that system.
Who This Is For
This digital intensive is for you if:
You’re dating and want to do it better—not just more
You’re tired of repeating the same emotional dynamics
You want clarity without becoming closed off
You value self-awareness, growth, and emotional integrity
You want a framework you can return to again and again while dating
This is not for you if you’re looking for:
A “get your ex back” strategy
Scripts to manipulate attraction
Or dating advice that ignores emotional impact
If you’re dating after a breakup and still feel emotionally pulled backward, you may want to explore Breakup Reset Digital Intensive before continuing to date.
Some people choose to pause dating and focus on building a grounded, fulfilling life solo. Learn more about Thriving Solo.
How This Works
Self-paced online digital intensive
Short, focused video lessons
Practical reflection prompts
Designed to be completed in a few sittings—or revisited over time
Immediate access after purchase
You can take this while actively dating—or before you jump back in.
Practical Details
90-minute online course you can complete on your own schedule
Premium workbook included to help you apple the UnPattern framework to your actual dating experiences
Pricing
$149 (Introductory Offer)
The Bottom Line
Dating doesn’t have to feel confusing, destabilizing, or self-erasing.
You can crave connection and remain grounded.
You can be open without losing yourself.
You can date with curiosity—not chaos.
Date With Discernment helps you stop repeating patterns and start choosing from clarity.
👉 Ready to Date With More Self-Trust?
Enroll in Date With Discernment
Immediate access. Self-paced. No pressure. No performance.
Frequently Asked Questions
Below are the most common questions I’m asked.
How This Is Different From Typical Dating Advice
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Yes. This digital intensive includes a fillable UnPattern workbook designed to help you apply the framework to your real-life dating experiences.
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No. Breakup Reset is coaching, not psychotherapy.
It does not include diagnosis, treatment of mental health conditions, or crisis care. The focus is on insight, emotional steadiness, and changing relationship patterns going forward.
If you’re looking for clinical treatment or ongoing emotional processing, therapy is the right option. I am a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in California, Utah, and Colorado and can see you for individual break up therapy if appropriate or help you find a therapist if you’re outside those states. Schedule a free clarity call and we can go from there!
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First off, congrats on the self-awareness! Should this arise we’d talk about it and handle it openly and ethically.
If it becomes clear that therapy would better support you, we’ll pause and discuss appropriate next steps. Your wellbeing always comes first!
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Breakup Reset is not appropriate if you:
Are in acute emotional crisis
Are experiencing active suicidality or severe depression
Need trauma processing or clinical mental health treatment
Are seeking couples therapy or reconciliation work
If any of these apply, therapy or specialized support is recommended instead. Schedule a clarity call and I am happy to help find you the best support in your healing!
Who is this course for?
This isn’t:
A checklist for “the right person”
A mindset hack to override your feelings
A rulebook designed to make you less human
Instead, we focus on:
Pattern recognition instead of self-blame
Emotional self-leadership instead of control
Discernment instead of avoidance or over-attachment
You don’t need to become less open.
You need to become less pattern-led.
This course is ideal if you’re actively dating (or preparing to date) and want to stop repeating the same emotional dynamics, second-guessing yourself, or overlooking red flags.
More FAQs
Yes. Knowing your attachment style is insight; applying it in real-time dating situations is a skill. This course bridges that gap. This course focuses on real-time dating behavior, not just labels. Many people understand their attachment style intellectually but struggle to apply that insight while dating—this course bridges that gap.
Will this help if I already know my attachment style?
Both! The focus is not the outcome—it’s how you relate while dating. Whether you’re dating intentionally, casually, or selectively, this course helps you stay aligned and self-led.
Is this for people who want a relationship - or people who are dating casually?
Most people complete the 90-minute intensive in 1–2 sittings, but many return to it throughout their dating life as situations change.
How long does it take to complete?
Is this dating course the same as therapy?
This is not therapy.
Therapy is ongoing, individualized, and designed to treat mental health conditions.
Date With Discernment is a structured, educational, psychology-informed digital intensive focused on insight, pattern awareness, and intentional change in your dating life.
Many people use this alongside therapy—or as a first step before deeper work.
Why do I keep repeating the same dating patterns?
Many people repeat dating patterns because attraction is shaped by familiarity, attachment dynamics, and nervous system responses—not conscious choice alone. This course helps you recognize those patterns early so you can choose differently.
How do I know if something is a red flag or just early dating anxiety?
This course teaches you how to distinguish anxiety from intuition and how to assess emotional availability without becoming hypervigilant or dismissing your needs.
Want Personalized Support While Dating?
If you find yourself saying:
“I understand this—but I still freeze or spiral in real situations.”
“I want feedback on what I’m actually experiencing while dating.”
You may benefit from Dating With Discernment Coaching.
This program builds on the digital intensive and offers:
Individualized support
Real-time pattern tracking
Application to your specific dating experiences
Accountability and clarity while dating
👉 Complete the digital intensive first.
Then apply for coaching if you want deeper, personalized guidance.
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UnPattern is a psychology-informed, educational program.
It is not psychotherapy and does not provide diagnosis, treatment, or mental health care.
Participation does not create a psychologist–patient relationship.
If you are experiencing significant emotional distress or require clinical support, please seek care from a licensed mental health professional.
If you are in crisis or need immediate support:
Call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room
Call or text 988 — Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Text HOME to 741741 — Crisis Text Line
