UnPattern Date Coaching: Dating With Discernment

UnPattern date coaching for people ready to interrupt familiar attraction patterns and date with intention, clarity, and emotional self-leadership.

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ELEVATE THE WAY YOU LIVE

• ELEVATE THE WAY YOU LIVE •

If Dating Feels Like This…

Things start strong, fast, or intense—and then unravel
You overlook early red flags because it feels familiar
You get attached before you actually know the person
You second-guess yourself after dates or situationships
You try to stay “chill,” but end up anxious, confused, or over-invested

You’re not bad at dating.
You’re just dating on autopilot.

Dating with Discernment helps you slow the process without shutting down—and choose partners with intention instead of habit.

If dating feels difficult because of unresolved grief or confusion from a past relationship, Breakup Reset may be a better starting point.

If you’re intentionally not dating right now, Thriving Solo supports building self-trust and clarity outside of dating.

Dating With Discernment Coaching

For people who are dating—but don’t want to lose themselves again.

You don’t need better dating apps.
You don’t need stricter rules.
And you definitely don’t need to shut your feelings down.

What you need is discernment—the ability to stay connected to yourself while attraction is happening.

Dating With Discernment is a 12-week, psychology-informed coaching program designed to help you interrupt familiar dating patterns and make choices based on clarity instead of chemistry alone. This coaching program applies the UnPattern framework to the moment where attraction, attachment, and choice collide.

This is for people who keep thinking:
“I don’t know why this keeps happening—I know better.”

This program helps you:

Recognize familiar dynamics early, not after you’re emotionally invested
Understand what attraction is signaling—and what it’s not
Pause instead of over-explaining, chasing, or rationalizing
Stay emotionally present without abandoning yourself
Make decisions based on values, not urgency

It’s not about dating perfectly. It’s about dating consciously.

Who This Program Is For

Dating With Discernment is a good fit if you:

Keep ending up in similar dating dynamics
Feel pulled toward people who are inconsistent, unavailable, or intense
Want to slow down dating without losing momentum
Are emotionally intelligent but still get caught up
Want guidance applying insight while dating is actually happening

You don’t need to know your “attachment style” perfectly.
You just need to notice that something familiar keeps showing up.

If you’re navigating a breakup or focusing on solo growth instead, you can explore those coaching pathways as well.

What Changes Over 12 Weeks

By the end of this program, clients often report:

Feeling calmer and more grounded while dating
Catching familiar patterns before getting pulled in
Making cleaner decisions with less rumination
Trusting themselves more—even when attraction is present
Feeling less confused and more self-directed

Not because dating became easier—
but because you became steadier.

Practical Details

12 weeks long, 45-minutes per meeting
Individual, one-on-one coaching support for accountability
Psychology-informed, present focused application of the UnPattern framework in real time
Premium workbook included

Pricing

$1,1997 (Introductory Offer)

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Frequently Asked Questions

How This Is Different From Typical Dating Advice

The Breakup Reset Program is 12 weekly, 45-minute meetings long.
Sessions are structured, focused, and practical.
We review what’s coming up emotionally, identify patterns, clarify insight, and apply it to real-world decisions. This is intentional coaching designed to help you stabilize and move forward.
No. Breakup Reset is coaching, not psychotherapy.
It does not include diagnosis, treatment of mental health conditions, or crisis care. The focus is on insight, emotional steadiness, and changing relationship patterns going forward.
If you’re looking for clinical treatment or ongoing emotional processing, therapy is the right option. I am a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in California, Utah, and Colorado and can see you for individual break up therapy if appropriate or help you find a therapist if you’re outside those states. Schedule a free clarity call and we can go from there!
First off, congrats on the self-awareness! Should this arise we’d talk about it and handle it openly and ethically.
If it becomes clear that therapy would better support you, we’ll pause and discuss appropriate next steps. Your wellbeing always comes first!
Breakup Reset is not appropriate if you:
- Are in acute emotional crisis
- Are experiencing active suicidality or severe depression
- Need trauma processing or clinical mental health treatment
- Are seeking couples therapy or reconciliation work
If any of these apply, therapy or specialized support is recommended instead. Schedule a clarity call and I am happy to help find you the best support in your healing!

Will this help me decide whether to reach out to my ex?

This isn’t:

A checklist for “the right person”
A mindset hack to override your feelings
A rulebook designed to make you less human

Instead, we focus on:

Pattern recognition instead of self-blame
Emotional self-leadership instead of control
Discernment instead of avoidance or over-attachment

You don’t need to become less open.
You need to become less pattern-led.

Maybe? But the goal isn’t to tell you what to do—it’s to help you understand why the urge exists and make decisions that are aligned with your values, rather than all the feels.

People have reported fewer impulse urges to reach out and more mental clarity over time. :)

What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?

Therapy

Clinical mental health treatment
Diagnosis and symptom support
Focused on healing, stabilization, and mental health care

Coaching

Non-clinical and educational
Focused on recognizing and interrupting patterns
Emphasizes choice, discernment, and application

Dating With Discernment is coaching, not therapy, and does not replace it.

More FAQs

The Breakup Reset Program is 12 weekly, 45-minute meetings long.
No. This is a psychology-informed educational and coaching-based program focused on intentional living, self-leadership, and emotional clarity while single.
Solo & Self-Actualized is not about optimization, performance, or “fixing” yourself.
It’s about consolidating identity, strengthening internal authority, and building a life that feels coherent and self-led—without bypassing emotional depth.
First off, congrats on the self-awareness! Should this arise we’d talk about it and handle it openly and ethically. Your wellbeing always comes first!
If it becomes clear that therapy would better support you, we’ll pause and discuss appropriate next steps. You can also use PsychologyToday.com to find a therapist in your area.
Breakup Reset is not appropriate if you:
- Are in acute emotional crisis
- Are experiencing active suicidality or severe depression
- Need trauma processing or clinical mental health treatment
- Are seeking couples therapy or reconciliation work
If any of these apply, therapy or specialized support is recommended instead. Schedule a clarity call and I am happy to help find you the best support in your healing!
Sessions are structured, focused, and practical.
We review what’s coming up emotionally, identify patterns, clarify insight, and apply it to real-world decisions. This is intentional coaching designed to help you stabilize and move forward.