Thriving Solo

Tired of putting your life on hold? Learn how to thrive while single, stop waiting for a relationship, and build a life so good anyone joining has to earn it.

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ELEVATE THE WAY YOU LIVE

• ELEVATE THE WAY YOU LIVE •

Single and Solo isn't a waiting room — it's your training ground.

You're waiting.

Waiting to buy the house until you have someone to share it with. Waiting to take the trip until you have a travel partner. Waiting to start your life until you meet "the one."

Meanwhile, your actual life is passing you by.

Here's what nobody tells you about being single: The problem isn't that you're alone. The problem is you're treating "single" like a temporary emergency instead of an actual phase of your life worth living.

What if you built a life so full that anyone joining it has to clear a high bar?

Not because you're picky. Because you've created something worth protecting.

Stop waiting for your life to start. Start building a life worth protecting.

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Thrive in Your Solo Season: 3-Month Coaching Program with Dr. Lindsay

Solo & Self-Actualized is a psychology—informed high-touch coaching program for intentional singlehood designed to help you:

Reclaim your identity outside of romantic attachment

Build self-trust, emotional authority, and internal alignment
Experience solitude as expansive—not empty
Lead your life with clarity, intention, and confidence

This is coaching, not therapy. It’s insight-driven, practical, and focused on real-world integration.

The Transformation

What you’ll gain from Solo & Self-Actualized:

Feel grounded in who you are and what matters
Make decisions from alignment—not fear or urgency
Trust yourself without constant external validation
Build a life that feels meaningful now

Learn how to thrive while single, stop waiting for a relationship, and build a life so good anyone joining has to earn it.

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Core Value

The relationship you have with yourself is the only constant in life - it directly shapes the depth of connection you’ll have with anyone else.

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How the Program Works

12 weekly 45-minute 1:1 coaching sessions
Psychology-informed framework
Light reflection prompts between meetings
Focus on insight → integration → embodiment

Deconditioning + Centering. Untangle old scripts. Reclaim your internal compass.
Identity, Meaning, + Self-Leadership. Build clarity, values in action, and emotional authority.
Integration + Future Orientation. Consolidate identity and design a life that fits who you are now.

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Who This Is For

This program is for you if:

You’re choosing singlehood intentionally (not avoidantly)
Life looks good on paper—but feels under-anchored internally. This is focused on building a solid sense of self as a foundation for everything else you do in your life.
You’re done organizing your future around “someday”
You want depth, autonomy, and emotional clarity and emotional self-leadership without self-abandonment

Investment

$3,600–$4,800

(Option for monthly payment available)

This is a premium, depth-oriented coaching container—not a surface-level program.

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Dr. Lindsay is here to help!

I’m Dr. Lindsay O’Shea (PhD), a California-based Clinical Psychologist who helps people understand and break repeating relationship patterns.

My work focuses on the space between insight and action—the moment when emotions activate, old strategies take over, and choice narrows. Rather than offering advice or labels, I help people recognize patterns earlier and respond with more clarity and self-trust.

My work bridges attachment science, nervous system awareness, and real-world relationships—without oversimplified advice or blame.

UnPattern was created for people who are insightful, self-aware, and still finding themselves stuck in the same cycles. Because knowing better doesn’t always mean choosing differently—until you understand why.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Below are the most common questions I hear about Thriving Solo:

Is this for people who never want a relationship? What if I want one later?

Not necessarily. This program is for people who want to feel grounded and whole whether they’re single, dating later, or partnered in the future.

Do I have to stay single during the program?

Absolutely not! The work is about how you relate to yourself, not enforcing a relationship status. Some clients remain single; others begin dating or relating differently. The goal is that whatever you choose, you do so from self-leadership rather than urgency or fear.

Will this help me stop settling or rushing into relationships?

Yes. Thriving solo helps you build self-trust and emotional stability so you’re not dating to escape discomfort or fill a void.

Is it healthy to choose being single on purpose?

Yes. Intentional singlehood can be a powerful period of growth, clarity, and self-trust. This program supports people who want to build a fulfilling life without dating from pressure or fear.

How is being alone different from being lonely?

Being alone is a circumstance; loneliness is a relationship to yourself. This program helps you cultivate connection, meaning, and emotional steadiness while single.

What if I’m doing ‘fine’ already?

This program isn’t for people in crisis. It’s for people who are functional but not fully aligned—and ready to live with more internal coherence and authorship.

What actually happens in coaching meetings?

Each weekly session is a 60-minute, one-on-one coaching conversation focused on:

Clarifying identity and values
Untangling internalized relational scripts
Strengthening emotional self-trust
Translating insight into lived change

This is reflective, direct, and practical—not surface-level or prescriptive.

What if I want to date while thriving solo?

Fantastic! Thriving solo doesn’t mean closing yourself off to connection. If and when you choose to date, Date With Discernment helps you do so without losing yourself. If your solo season followed a breakup that still feels unresolved, Breakup Reset may be a helpful place to start.

Who is this program best suited for?

This program is ideal for people who are:

Intentionally single or decentering romantic partnership
Emotionally aware but craving deeper internal alignment
High-functioning and reflective, yet feeling subtly unanchored
Ready to stop organizing their life around “someday”

If you’re looking for dating advice, matchmaking, or relationship repair, this is not the right fit.

More FAQs

No. This is a psychology-informed educational and coaching-based program focused on intentional living, self-leadership, and emotional clarity while single.
Solo & Self-Actualized is not about optimization, performance, or “fixing” yourself.
It’s about consolidating identity, strengthening internal authority, and building a life that feels coherent and self-led—without bypassing emotional depth.
First off, congrats on the self-awareness! Should this arise we’d talk about it and handle it openly and ethically. Your wellbeing always comes first!
If it becomes clear that therapy would better support you, we’ll pause and discuss appropriate next steps. You can also use PsychologyToday.com to find a therapist in your area.
Breakup Reset is not appropriate if you:
- Are in acute emotional crisis
- Are experiencing active suicidality or severe depression
- Need trauma processing or clinical mental health treatment
- Are seeking couples therapy or reconciliation work
If any of these apply, therapy or specialized support is recommended instead. Schedule a clarity call and I am happy to help find you the best support in your healing!