Modern Dating Is Broken. You're Not.

Dating Support That Helps You Stop Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns

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ELEVATE THE WAY YOU LIVE

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Your dating life doesn't need another dating app. It needs a reality check.

You've been ghosted, breadcrumbed, and told "it's not you, it's me" more times than you can count. You've downloaded and deleted Hinge three times this year. You know what you don't want, but when it comes to what you do want? Crickets.

Here's the truth: You can't swipe your way into a better love life. You have to grow your way there.

UnPattern helps you stop repeating the same relationship mistakes, understand what the hell you actually want, and build a life so good you won't settle for less than you deserve.

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Tired of choosing the wrong people? Learn how to date with discernment, tell the difference between chemistry and compatibility, and stop settling.

You might be here because:

You're overwhelmed by dating apps and want to use them without burning out
You're tired of situationships that go nowhere
You can't tell if someone's interested or just breadcrumbing you
You're exhausted from playing games you don't want to play
You feel like everyone's playing by rules no one explained
You want real connection but don't know how to find it in hookup culture
You're ready to date consciously in a culture that encourages chaos

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Let Me Guide You Through This…

Working with me helps you:

Identify your dating and attachment patterns in real time

Stop confusing chemistry with emotional availability

Set boundaries without guilt, over-explaining, or people-pleasing
Regulate dating anxiety instead of spiraling or shutting down

Choose partners from clarity, not urgency
Build connections that feel steady, mutual, and grounded
Relate to yourself with consistency, compassion, and authority

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Ways to Work With Me

Digital Intensives

Self-Paced, Online
For when you feel something’s off and are ready to start exploring it.
Intensives are short, psycho-educational programs to help you begin to recognize your patterns, get tools for self-practice, regain clarity, and revive your emotional footing.

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1:1 Coaching Programs

Guided to Go Deeper
For when you see the pattern and want individualized, structure, accountability, and guidance applying insights in real time.
You understand what’s happening. Let’s actually change it, together!

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Individual Therapy

Therapeutic - Get foundational
For when you want personalized, deep pattern processing work tailored to your life - past, present, and future.
You’re looking for a supportive, therapeutic relationship to unpack and unpattern your history to fully understand yourself and reach your goals.

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The Quiz

The 6 Dating Patterns

Which Pattern Are You? Take the Quiz to find out!

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One unreturned text away from a full spiral
You're constantly on high alert in relationships. You're not crazy—you're just operating from a place of constant fear that they're about to leave.
Different face, same story
You genuinely don't understand why you keep ending up in the same relationship. Spoiler: You can't see your pattern.
Hard conversations? You'd rather vanish into thin air
You're allergic to discomfort. DTR talks, conflict, vulnerability—you'd rather disappear than deal with any of it.
You are whoever they need you to be
Your sense of self is... negotiable. You morph into their perfect partner, then wonder why nothing feels right.
You want what you refuse to give
You preach emotional availability while being emotionally unavailable. You want honesty while keeping things vague. You're a walking contradiction.
You've done the work. Now go find someone who matches your energy.
You know yourself, communicate well, regulate your emotions, and show up with integrity. Congrats—you're the unicorn everyone's working toward.

Frequently Asked Questions

Below are the most common questions I hear about Thriving Solo:

Why do I keep dating the same type of person—even when I know better?

Because attraction isn’t random. Most people are drawn to what feels familiar, not what’s healthy. Past relationships, early attachment experiences, and emotional conditioning quietly shape who feels “right.” Dating work isn’t about blaming your past—it’s about interrupting autopilot so you can choose differently.

How do I stop overthinking every text, date, or interaction?

Overthinking isn’t a personality flaw—it’s a nervous system response.
When dating triggers uncertainty or insecurity, your brain tries to regain control through analysis. Learning how to regulate your emotional responses helps you respond thoughtfully instead of spiraling.

What’s the difference between a dating pattern and an attachment pattern?

A dating pattern is what you do. An attachment pattern explains why you do it. Understanding both gives you leverage—because insight alone doesn’t change behavior, but insight + tools does.

How long should I give someone before deciding if it’s a fit?

There’s no universal timeline—but clarity matters more than time.
Dating intentionally means checking for consistency, emotional availability, and alignment, not waiting indefinitely for potential to materialize.

Will this help me stop settling or rushing into relationships?

Yes. Thriving solo helps you build self-trust and emotional stability so you’re not dating to escape discomfort or fill a void.

Is this for people who want a relationship - or people who are dating casually?

Both! The focus is not the outcome—it’s how you relate while dating. Whether you’re dating intentionally, casually, or selectively, this course helps you stay aligned and self-led.

Is it normal to feel confused or burned out by dating?

Yes. And no—You don’t have to stay there.
Modern dating is emotionally noisy: apps, mixed signals, unclear expectations, and too many options. Burnout doesn’t mean you’re bad at dating. It usually means you’re dating without clarity or alignment.

How do I know if something is a red flag or just early dating anxiety?

This course teaches you how to distinguish anxiety from intuition and how to assess emotional availability without becoming hypervigilant or dismissing your needs.

Should dating feel hard if it’s “right”?

No—but it also shouldn’t feel numb or chaotic.
Healthy dating often feels calmer, more grounded, and less dramatic than what we’ve been conditioned to expect. If something only feels exciting because it’s uncertain or emotionally unavailable, that’s information—not chemistry.

Is it better to take a break from dating or keep trying?

That depends on why you’re dating.
If dating feels compulsive, confusing, draining, or you’re feeling disillusioned a pause can be productive. If it feels intentional and values-aligned, continuing can be growth-supportive. There’s no gold star for pushing through burnout and it most definitely will not be easy to form a healthy connection from that place.

Will this help me get over my ex?

That depends on why you’re dating. If dating feels compulsive, confusing, or draining, a pause can be productive. If it feels intentional and values-aligned, continuing can be growth-supportive. There’s no gold star for pushing through burnout.

Can I work on dating without being in a relationship?

Absolutely—and it’s often the most effective time.
Dating clarity starts with understanding yourself, your needs, and your patterns before emotions are on the line.

How do I know which starting point is right for me?

Different seasons require different levels of support. This isn’t a hierarchy. It’s a continuum. Many people move between: Blogs → Digital Intensive → Coaching → Therapy —or combine them intentionally.

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Who this is for and how you can benefit from working with Dr. Lindsay

Best for:
- Pattern recognition
- Practical tools
- Self-paced clarity
- People who want structure without pressure
Think: “I want to understand what’s happening—and interrupt it on my own schedule”
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Best for:
- Repatterning in real time
- Accountability
- Dating discernment
- Building confidence and emotional steadiness
Think:“I want one-on-one structured support with real-time practice and feedback.”
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Best for:
- Emotional distress or overwhelm
- Trauma, attachment wounds, or mental health concerns
- Deep relational healing
- Ongoing support
Think:“This isn’t just about dating—it’s affecting my life and well-being.”
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More FAQs

This is a very common question! In addition to my PhD in Clinical Psychology, I also have a coaching certificate and can assist at whichever level you’re ready for.
Coaching meetings are psychology-informed, structured, focused, and practical. We apply the UnPattern framework to your life to clearly identify patterns, and apply insight to real-time choices. This is intentional coaching focused on the present and future to help propel you into change.
Therapy sessions create a safe space to process emotions, heal from past wounds understand yourself on a deep level, and provides mental health treatment. We aim to understand the past, explore the present and build a future that feels uniquely individualized to you. Therapy is only available in California, Colorado, and Utah as those are the states that I hold licenses in.
Schedule a quick clarity call to connect and notice how you feel talking to that person. Finding a therapist or coach that you vibe with is one of the most significant factors in reaching your goals and having a good experience.
Schedule a clarity call and let’s see if we’re a good fit to help you on your journey.
First off, congrats on the self-awareness! Should this arise we’d talk about it and handle it openly and ethically. Your wellbeing always comes first!
If it becomes clear that therapy would better support you, we’ll pause and discuss appropriate next steps. You can also use PsychologyToday.com to find a therapist in your area.