Stop Repeating. Start Choosing Differently .
Stop repeating patterns in love. Start choosing relationships that actually fit you.
Make Your Next 12 Weeks Different From Your Last 12 Months
You’re not confused because you lack insight. You’re stuck because your patterns are faster than your intentions.
Over 12 weeks, UnPattern Coaching helps you:
Spot the pattern while it’s happening (not three weeks later in your notes app).
Pause instead of spiraling, overexplaining, or people-pleasing.
Make decisions that match who you are now, not who you had to be in past relationships.
Have a grounded space to process—with a tailored, fillable workbook so you’re not trying to “DIY” your growth between sessions.
This work is practical, directive, and deeply human—not fluffy advice or generic “just love yourself” pep talks.
How UnPattern Coaching Works
A 12-week, 1:1 psychology-informed coaching program to interrupt your relationship patterns in real time.
In this program, you get:
12 weekly, 45-minute coaching sessions (virtual) focused on what’s actually happening in your life right now.
One-on-one support so you’re not white-knuckling change on your own.
A premium, fillable workbook tailored to your patterns, with prompts and tools to use between meetings.
A clear framework for recognizing, interrupting, and replacing familiar dynamics instead of repeating them.
Coaching is present-focused, educational, and application-oriented. It is not therapy and does not provide diagnosis or mental health treatment.
Choose Your Season:
UnPattern Coaching Programs support you in the specific season you’re in now.
You’re single and done treating your solo season like a waiting room for “real life.”
You want to build a life that feels full now, not just when you’re partnered.
You’ve dated versions of the same person in different bodies and are ready to stop abandoning yourself, rushing in, or ignoring red flags.
You want to date from emotional clarity, not anxiety.
You’re in a relationship and tired of having the same arguments, feeling like the “overreactive” one, or shrinking yourself to keep the peace.
You want to feel solid in yourself while in your relationship.
A relationship ended, but it’s still running your mental and emotional bandwidth. You’re done replaying the past and want clarity for what’s next.
Unsure which season fits? Start with a free Clarity Call or take the “Where to Start” Quiz.
Is This For You?
UnPattern Coaching is a good fit if:
You keep ending up in familiar dynamics—even with very different people.
You can name your patterns, but in the moment you still freeze, fawn, or fall back into old roles.
You want grounded guidance, structure, and honest reflection—not performative “healing” or trendy jargon.
You’re ready to take ownership of your choices and experiment with new ways of relating.
Looking for clinical mental health treatment? Therapy may be a better fit but we can talk it through together on a Clarity Call.
What You Can Expect
In UnPattern Coaching, you can expect:
Direct, honest conversations without judgment or shaming.
Structure and accountability, without rigid “perfect student” expectations.
Insight that translates into different choices—not just more self-awareness.
Support when patterns show up, not only in hindsight.
Change doesn’t come from trying harder. It comes from interrupting the familiar and practicing something new in real time.
Practical Details & Investment
Investment: 12-week UnPattern Coaching Program – 1,997 (Introductory Offer).
You receive:
12 weeks of 1:1 coaching (45-minute sessions, once per week).
Individual, psychology-informed support focused on your real relationships, not hypotheticals.
A premium workbook and tools you can revisit long after our work together ends.
Next steps:
Book a free Clarity Call to confirm fit and answer questions.
If we’re a match, you’ll receive enrollment details and scheduling links.
We’ll identify your core patterns and map where to focus your 12 weeks, so you’re clear on what you’re working toward.
UnPattern: Coaching Programs
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Solo & Self-Actualized
For people who are single — and choosing to be intentional about it.
Single and solo isn’t a waiting room for a relationship - it’s a training ground. Stop waiting for your life to start and build a life that you love, regardless of your relationship status.
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Dating With Discernment
For people who are dating — but don’t want to lose themselves again.
Things moved fast, felt familiar, or fell apart suddenly — and now you’re wondering why this keeps happening with different people.
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Relationships
For people who are in relationships and tired of repeating the same arguments or emotional cycles.
UnPattern: Relationships helps you interrupt patterns, set boundaries without guilt, and relate with more clarity and self-trust.
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Breakup Reset
For when a relationship has ended—but it’s still running the show.
You’re replaying the relationship, questioning yourself, or feeling pulled back into something you know wasn’t right — but still feels unfinished..
Frequently Asked Questions
Below are the most common questions I hear about Thriving Solo:
Is this a dating or “how to get your ex back” program?
The Breakup Reset isn’t necessarily about reconciliation strategies, winning someone back, or getting you back out there right away. It’s about helping you regain clarity, self-trust, and emotional steadiness so future choices aren’t driven by loss or fear - they’re driven by a solid foundation of knowing who you are and what you want.
Is this therapy?
Thriving solo doesn’t mean rejecting love or pretending you don’t want connection. It means building a full, grounded life now—instead of putting your happiness on hold until a relationship shows up. This will help you with discernment and create a high bar for who enters your life when you do date.
Will this help me decide whether to reach out to my ex?
Maybe? But the goal isn’t to tell you what to do—it’s to help you understand why the urge exists and make decisions that are aligned with your values, rather than all the feels.
People have reported fewer impulse urges to reach out and more mental clarity over time.
Is this only for dating or romantic relationship endings?
No! An ending is an ending – romantic or otherwise. I don’t care if it was one week long or 45 years long, time doesn’t matter either. The loss is real.
I am happy to tailor the program to help you heal from other endings as well, including endings of friendships, situationships, talking stages, and long-term relationships.
More FAQs
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I’ve found that coaching programs work best over 12 weeks. Each meeting is 45-minutes long, and it’s recommended to meet on a weekly basis, but we can individualize the program and tailor it to your needs.
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Meetings are structured, focused, and practical.
We review what’s coming up emotionally, identify patterns, clarify insight, and apply it to real-world decisions. This is intentional coaching designed to help you stabilize and move forward.
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First off, congrats on the self-awareness! Should this arise, we’d talk about it and handle it openly and ethically. Your wellbeing always comes first!
If it becomes clear that therapy would better support you, we’ll pause and discuss appropriate next steps. You can also use PsychologyToday.com to find a therapist in your area.
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Breakup Reset is not appropriate if you:
Are in acute emotional crisis
Are experiencing active suicidality or severe depression
Need trauma processing or clinical mental health treatment
Are seeking couples therapy or reconciliation work
If any of these apply, therapy or specialized support is recommended instead. Schedule a clarity call and I am happy to help find you the best support in your healing!
UnPattern is a psychology-informed, educational program. It is not psychotherapy and does not provide diagnosis, treatment, or mental health care. Participation does not create a psychologist–patient relationship.
If you are experiencing significant emotional distress or require clinical support, please seek care from a licensed mental health professional.
If you are in crisis or need immediate support:
Call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room
Call or text 988 — Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Text HOME to 741741 — Crisis Text Line
Unsure of where to begin?
Call Dr. Lindsay for a Free Clarity Call or take the below Quiz to start your Adventure!