Stop Repeating Painful Patterns In Love.
Start Building Secure, Healthy Relationships
Get expert support for attachment styles and relationship patterns through group work, coaching, or therapy.
Dr Lindsay O' SheaLicensed Psychologist, Coach, and Creator of the UnPattern Framework.
If Your Love Life Feels Like Groundhog Day…
You’re smart, self-aware, and doing the work—yet your relationship patterns still feel stuck.
You might notice yourself:
Attracting emotionally unavailable partners while craving deeper connection.
Feeling anxious, overthinking every text, and struggling to trust your intuition.
Shutting down, avoiding conflict, or disappearing when things get too close.
Repeating the same breakup, just with a different person and a different year.
Knowing your attachment style but not knowing how to actually change it.
If this sounds familiar, you don’t need more “tips.”
You need a clear framework, the right level of support, and someone in your corner as you UnPattern old dynamics.
Unsure of where to start? Take the quiz below to begin your journey.
Meet Dr. Lindsay O’Shea & The UnPattern Framework
I’m Dr. Lindsay O’Shea, a licensed clinical psychologist and coach specializing in attachment styles, relationship patterns, and self-trust.
I created the UnPattern Framework to help you recognize the anxious, avoidant, or disorganized patterns keeping you stuck and move toward earned secure attachment—without losing yourself in the process.
UnPattern Framework helps you:
See the pattern: Name the cycles, triggers, and attachment dynamics playing out in your love life.
Stabilize yourself: Build emotional regulation, boundaries, and clarity so you stop reacting on autopilot.
Choose differently: Practice new behaviors in real time—dating, relationships, breakups, or solo seasons.
Ways to Work With Me:
Choose The Support That Fits You Right Now
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Group Work
Best for:
When you want expert guidance, peer support, and the transformative realization that you're not alone.You’ll get:
-A safe circle of 6-8 women working through the same challenges at the same time and who understand the dating circus firsthand.
-Real talk about red flags, patterns, and what healthy dating actually looks like.
-Tools, insights, and strategies you can apply to your dating life immediately.
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1:1 Coaching Programs
Best for:
When you see the pattern and want personalized guidance applying insights in real time.You’ll get:
-Psychology-informed, structured sessions focused on the present and future.
-Clear goals, between-session practices, and accountability.
-Support across dating, relationships, breakups, or thriving solo seasons.
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Individual Therapy
Best for:
When you want to unpack your history, heal old wounds, and work at a therapeutic depth.You’ll get:
-Weekly or biweekly sessions tailored to your past, present, and future.
-A safe, consistent relationship to process emotions and integrate your story.
-Support for mental health concerns alongside relationship patterns.
What Changes When You UnPattern Your Love Life: The Complete Transformation
When we work together, we’re not just talking about your feelings—we’re changing how you show up in every relationship, starting with the one you have with yourself.
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🎯 Clarity
Clarity about what you want in love—and what you will no longer tolerate.
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🛡️ Boundaries
Boundaries you can set clearly and hold without guilt or over-explaining.
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💪 Confidence
Confidence that doesn’t rise and fall with someone else’s attention.
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🧘 Emotional Mastery
Emotional regulation so you can feel deeply without making impulsive decisions.
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🗣️ Authentic Communication
Communication that actually lands—expressing needs and desires with honesty and care.
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🔁 Pattern Breaking
Pattern-breaking tools so you stop replaying the same dynamics with new people.
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🤝 Secure Attachment
Movement toward earned secure attachment and more stable, nourishing connections.
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✨ Self-Trust
Self-trust that becomes the foundation for every choice you make.
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🌟 All Relationships
As your relationship with yourself strengthens, every other relationship—partners, friends, family, and your future self—begins to shift.
How To Get Started
STEP 1
Pattern Breakthrough Call with Dr. Lindsay
No commitment required, just real, live support.
OR
Take the “Where to Start” Quiz
Meet for a brief Clarity Call
We’ll talk through what you’re experiencing, what you want, and how I can help.
STEP 2
Begin your first phase of support.
We’ll choose the right path together and schedule your first session or intensive.
STEP 3
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the difference between therapy and coaching?
This is a very common question! In addition to my PhD in Clinical Psychology, I also have a coaching certificate and can assist at whichever level you’re ready for.
Coaching meetings are psychology-informed, structured, focused, and practical. We apply the UnPattern framework to your life to clearly identify patterns, and apply insight to real-time choices. This is intentional coaching focused on the present and future to help propel you into change.
Therapy sessions create a safe space to process emotions, heal from past wounds understand yourself on a deep level, and provides mental health treatment. We aim to understand the past, explore the present and build a future that feels uniquely individualized to you. Therapy is only available in California, Colorado, and Utah as those are the states that I hold licenses in.
How do I chose a Therapist or Coach?
Schedule a quick clarity call to connect and notice how you feel talking to that person. Finding a therapist or coach that you vibe with is one of the most significant factors in reaching your goals and having a good experience.
Schedule a clarity call and let’s see if we’re a good fit to help you on your journey.
More FAQs
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Yes! Let’s see if we’d be a good fit to help you reach your goals by scheduling a clarity call. I’m looking forward to connecting.
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I do not take insurance directly; however, I can provide superbills (like a receipt) that you can submit to your insurance company for partial reimbursement of fees if your insurance policy offers this benefit for “out-of-network” providers. If you are not sure if you have these benefits, give your insurance company a call and they can clarify.
Please note that I do accept FSA/HSA cards.
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Here are some helpful questions to ask your insurance provider to determine if they will cover a portion of the therapy for “out-of-network mental health providers/services.”
Is the cost of psychological therapy covered?
Is there a deductible for out-of-network services? Has it been met and if not, how long until the deductible is met?
What portion will be reimbursed?
Is a referral needed?
Is pre-authorization required?
Will a claim be required after services?
The CPT codes are we utilize most are:
90791 (evaluation), 90834 (45 minute psychotherapy session)
How do I get started?
Whether you’re looking for therapy or coaching, schedule a clarity call to get started. We’ll schedule a brief phone to get a better sense of what you’re looking for and how I can help. If it turns out we’re a good fit, we’ll set up our first meeting!
You can also take the “Where to start” Quiz
Do you offer Telehealth or In-Person?
Both, as well as a hybrid option. My physical office is in Cardiff-By-The-Sea in San Diego, California - if you’re in the area, in person meetings are a great option.
Telehealth is a great option for those outside of the area. While I can only see therapy clients within California, Colorado and Utah, coaching provides more flexibility and extends to all states.
UnPattern is a psychology-informed, educational program.
It is not psychotherapy and does not provide diagnosis, treatment, or mental health care.
Participation does not create a psychologist–patient relationship.
If you are experiencing significant emotional distress or require clinical support, please seek care from a licensed mental health professional.
If you are in crisis or need immediate support:
Call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room
Call or text 988 — Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Text HOME to 741741 — Crisis Text Line
Unsure of where to begin?
Schedule a Free Clarity Call with Dr. Lindsay to start your Adventure!