Dr. Lindsay O'Shea You deserve a love life that doesn’t make you feel like you’re losing your mind.
Dating shouldn’t feel like decoding chaos.
Being single shouldn’t mean putting your life on hold waiting for a relationship.
Breakups shouldn’t leave you questioning everything about yourself.
UnPattern. Change Your Patterns. Change Your Life.
UnPattern. Change Your Patterns. Change Your Life.
UnPattern. Change Your Patterns. Change Your Life.
UnPattern. Change Your Patterns. Change Your Life. UnPattern. Change Your Patterns. Change Your Life. UnPattern. Change Your Patterns. Change Your Life.
Hey there, I’m Dr. Lindsay O’Shea.
Clinical Psychologist. Former Date Coach, Matchmaker, and Dating App Consultant.
Helping people UnPattern their lives for nearly 20 years.
Let Me Guess…
→ You're tired of attracting the same person in different packaging
→ Your attachment style is driving and you're just along for the ride
→ You have a whole list of what you want but you're not living any of it
→ You're attracted to people who can't give you what you need
→ Dating apps make you feel like you're shopping (because you are)
→ Break Ups wreck you for months (even if part of you knew it wasn’t right)
Why you keep attracting what you don’t want:
The problem? Your pulled to a certain ‘type’ of person but magnetic chemistry isn’t the same as compatibility. You’re magnet is confusing ‘familiar’ with love.
We’re creatures of patterns, we search for that familiar chemistry so you’re attracted to what you know.. even when part of you knows it’s not working for you.
Think of your attraction like a magnet:
Original Magnetic Template = Your Attachment Style History
Magnetic Pull = What’s Familiar
Magnetic Repel = What’s Different
The truth: Your attachment patterns are choosing partners for you behind the scenes.
The solution? Shift the magnet’s attraction. Change your patterns, change your life.
Core ValueThe relationship you have with yourself is the only constant in your life - it directly shapes the depth of connection you’ll have with anyone else.
UnPattern Method
Five pillars to break the cycle
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Pattern Recognition 📍
You can’t change what you don’t see. Understand your attachment style, identify triggers, map out the cycles you’ve been running for years.
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Identity Architecture
Who are YOU and what do you actually want (not what you think you should want)? Build an unshakeable sense of self that doesn’t dissolve the moment someone shows you attention.
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Communication Competency 🗣️
Stop hinting, hoping, and mind reading. Learn to identify and express your needs clearly and unapologetically, set boundaries without guilt, and have hard conversations that actually strengthen relationships.
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Emotional Regulation 🙈
Stop making decisions in the middle of an anxiety spiral. Learn to identify your feelings (without judgement), ride the emotions wave, and stop sabotaging or running away.
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Integrity in Action ✅
Practice closing the gap between who you say you are and how you show up. This is where transformation grows.
The Complete Transformation
What happens when you work all 5 UnPattern Pillars?
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🎯 Clarity
Know exactly what you want—and what you won’t tolerate—in relationships
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🛡️ Boundaries
Set them clearly, hold them consistently, without guilt or over-explaining
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💪 Confidence
An unshakeable sense of self that doesn’t waver based on someone’s interest
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🧘 Emotional Mastery
Feel deeply without making impulsive, regrettable decisions
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🗣️ Authentic Communication
Express needs, desires, and boundaries with clarity and confidence
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🔁 Pattern Breaking
Stop repeating the same relationship dynamics over and over
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🤝 Secure Attachment
Move toward earned secure attachment and healthier relationship patterns
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✨ Self-Trust
Building the foundation that changes everything else – hear yourself clearly, advocate for your needs, and choose better for yourself.
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🌟 All Relationships
When you strengthen your relationship with yourself, every other relationship changes—with partners, friends, family, and your future self.
The QuizThe 6 Dating Patterns
Which Pattern Are You? Take the Quiz to find out!
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Different face, same story
You genuinely don't understand why you keep ending up in the same relationship. Spoiler: You can't see your pattern.
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One unreturned text away from a full spiral
You're constantly on high alert in relationships. You're not crazy—you're just operating from a place of constant fear that they're about to leave.
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Hard conversations? You'd rather vanish into thin air
You're allergic to discomfort. DTR talks, conflict, vulnerability—you'd rather disappear than deal with any of it.
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You are whoever they need you to be
Your sense of self is... negotiable. You morph into their perfect partner, then wonder why nothing feels right.
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You want what you refuse to give
You preach emotional availability while being emotionally unavailable. You want honesty while keeping things vague. You're a walking contradiction.
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You've done the work. Now go find someone who matches your energy.
You know yourself, communicate well, regulate your emotions, and show up with integrity. Congrats—you're the unicorn everyone's working toward.
